Has it really been over a year since I last posted? In a word: Yes.
When I first started this site, I thought I would be a blogging machine in between diaper changes and nap times. Come to find out, being a stay-at-home dad is MAD work (feel free to say “DUH” out loud like most people would say if this were an actual conversation). Now, I knew this would be difficult coming in because I stayed home with my oldest son when he was just a few months old before going back to work full time along with my wife. He is now 4 and quite the delightful handful himself. But being home with twins is another animal that no singleton or set of books can really prepare you for.
While I can’t update you on everything I have been doing over the the last 12-18 months, I can tell you one of the big items I have been working on is a YouTube channel for kids where a pirate puppet named Captain Vernon (a stretch, I know) and a nerdy professor (yet another stretch, I know) do toy reviews combined with educational lessons on a variety of cool subjects.
But you might be wondering, why start blogging now after being home for almost 2 years. Well, 2 reasons.
The first: back when I first started this Stay-At-Home dad life, I did not have much to say. I was learning on the fly for the most part, and could not really think of stuff to write that would be anything more than a paragraph or 2 about what had happened in any given week. I figured a few updates to friends and family on Facebook would cover that.
My second reason for starting this up again: this photo.
To give you some context, it was taken by a reporter who did an article about spending 72 hours at the world’s largest Stay-At-Home Dad convention hosted by the National At-Home Dad Network in Portland this past September. I wanted to attend last year, but could not work out the details and this year posed similar problems. But when I saw all these dads wearing masks for the photo to show a sense a unity, 2 things came to mind.
First: Because I am child of the 80’s and 90’s (amazing decades on their own, epic when combined), I immediately remembered the masks the robbers used in the classic Patrick Swayze (RIP) and Keanu Reeves movie Point Break and how I need to watch that movie again simply for nostalgia’s sake (yes those robbers used presidential masks but still..).
The second thought that hit me: where are the black, brown and tan masks?
This is not to say I have any issue with National At-Home Dad Network or the photo. I am sure the attendees wore the mask that best represented them and that there are masks in other colors as well. MY issue is with people of color representing at all events, but especially when it comes those events that show how much we love caring for our kids. Seeing this photo helped me realize that I have a voice and a perspective that could be helpful to all people of all backgrounds, but may be even more helpful to that brother out there caring for his kids on his own because he is the only breadwinner, or the brother who stays home with the kids because he just loves to do it and his wife loves that he does it willingly (and also because the babysitter comes in once a week to give him a full 8 hours of freedom).
Either way, to quote the terrible, terrible Will Smith movie Wild Wild West, maybe if I start planning for the 2018 SAHD Convention (sounds like a downer as an acronym), I will be able to a “…add color to these monochromatic proceedings”. In the movie’s defense, this is one of the funnier scenes with Smith and Branagh going tit for tat with comments that highlight Smith being black and Branagh being stuck in a wheelchair but that is a blog for another day.
So, I am back on the scene for as long as I can be and hope I can bring a perspective that is helpful to dads and moms (and all caregivers) alike.
Daily posts? Doubtful.
Weekly posts? Maybe.
Monthly posts? Likely.
Subjects will run the gamut from childcare to Netflix reviews to some Paw Patrol commentary and everything in between. No subject is out of bounds! Except maybe politics…
Whatever happens, I look forward to sharing it with you.
Let’s do this!